Let’s get real for a minute. If you are a parent (or student or grandparent or have any kids at all involved in your life), you know that while the rest of the world celebrates the new year on January 1st, the real new year starts when the kids go back to school.
It’s the time when we as parents make resolutions. Resolutions like our kids will have all natural, super healthy homemade lunches every day with a super cute and puny note or our kids will do their homework the moment they arrive home, without having to be reminded or nagged. It’s the year that we won’t find out about projects that require paint, poster board, and other random supplies at the last minute on a Sunday night. Kids will make resolutions too. This is the year they’ll make the basketball team or get an A in math or not get sent to the principal’s office too many times.
While Alexie is nowhere near old enough for school, with a teacher in the family, the back to school season affects us too. It’s really one of my favorite times of the year. The new routines are refreshing and exciting. And I have a few resolutions to celebrate the “real” new year!
I resolve to embrace change. While I love routine, I’ve realized that there are always going to be things that throw a wrench in my plans. Whether it be last minutes meetings or projects, canceled plans or even a sick kid, I’m vowing to take a deep breath and realize that I can’t control everything. I can choose to be stressed by things outside of my control or I can find a silver lining in every little hiccup. I can freak out about having to reschedule my meetings and plans when Alexie gets sick or I can enjoy a moment to cuddle with my little one. I can freak out about being stuck in traffic or I can look forward to an excuse to have frozen pizza for dinner. I can choose how I can react to unforeseen changes and I’m vowing to try and have the most postive outlook I can have.
I resolve to be more grateful. A few weeks from now we will be celebrating Thanksgiving but I vow to be more thankful for the people in my life all year round. There are so many people out there who impact my family’s life. There are teachers, coaches, pastors, nursery workers, and babysitters, all who give their time and energy to make a positive impact in the lives of my child and my family. These people often go above and beyond their job descriptions and do it for the benefit of others. And they get little thanks for their actions. This year, I vow to take the time to thank these people. To thank the teachers who spend their lunch break running a math club, the nursery volunteer who sings songs with my child while I enjoy a church service and the coach who pulls out the trampoline even though they know they are in for chaos. They are working tirelessly to make the lives of others better and they deserve a little gratitude.
I resolve to share. Share joy, share grace and compassion, share love. There are so many instances where my reaction can make or break a person’s day. Whether it’s a child who just handed me their failed test, a teacher who’s overworked and overstretched or the barista who made a mistake with my order, I can get angry, raise my voice and demand better or I can share some grace. I can use my reaction to help them rather than make their already bad day worse. I can smile, comfort, empathize and forgive. I can share joy rather than anger, understanding rather than frustration and give someone a break and share some love. And sharing a little love will make the world a little better.
So, here’s to a new school year! I am so excited to see what this year has in store for me and my little family. We’ll celebrate the wedding of Stephane’s sister in a few weeks, a new puppy is joining the family (Well extended family. I’m living vicariously through my parents who are getting a petite labradoodle puppy) and the arrival of a new niece or nephew later this winter. And I’m sure that’s just the tip of the iceberg of all the exciting adventures and surprises in store for us. And hopefully having these little resolutions will make this our best year ever!